thanks to rich for the email.
The comments section on the site was working well but apparently When i turned on the comments authenitcation stuff, I also turned on a moderation thing. This means I have to check and okay every comment made. I hadn’t been doing this.
anyway I have done it now and the comments are posted, thanks to all who have commented, please leave a comment about how stoopid i have been/am/will be at your leisure.
p.s. I changed the theme. Not sure I really like it yet but it will do.